SILENCE is a very powerful weapon. It has the power to bring out anything hidden deep inside of anything or anyone with practice. To grow and to learn SILENCE is very important. It plays a very important and dominant role in our life which we don’t realize that it actually does. SILENCE is so powerful that it can make opposite person think twice before he speaks because when 2 people are having a chat and suddenly one person becomes silent the change of environment becomes clearly evident to the opposite person. He stops and tries to know if something is wrong. It reminds of my mom when I was a small child she used to tell me “don’t let people get away with you by teasing you and getting the best of you. Just be calm and composed it is they who are making fools of themselves not you”

For example you came home from outside and your house is unusually silent you are suddenly worried that something serious has happened or that there is no one at your home. It is just that since from many a times we humans are quizzed and dazzled by the concept called “SILENCE”. We never really have been able to harness this powerful weapon.  SILENCE doesn’t mean to keep quiet or to be still and not talking anything, it means to be quiet from deep within in the mind and the heart and think coolly. We very often listen to people asking us to calm down and think. This mysterious weapon is always referred by many counselors and career guidance teachers. Most of the philosophers and spiritual guru’s when asked to give any remedy to help them get peace they tell us to spend some of our daily time in SILENCE or meditating so that we can get peace if we make it our regularity.

Now then why do all these people tell the same thing? Is SILENCE capable of such tremendous powers so that it can change our lives and lifestyles? Is it capable of personality development? These are the questions we tend to ask ourselves or to the people who tell us about this art.

The truth is the biological constitution of a human being is so designed or at least it is so accustomed to keep itself busy that a normal human being cannot bear to be in a silent and secluded area for long not because he is afraid of the area but the silence surrounding makes him alert which tenses the brain and activates all your brain cells to concentrate on a singular aspect which our brain is not used to and we are afraid to accept it because we are not habituated to it. Scientifically it is proved that if a person keeping calm and silent and meditating for a few minutes daily will reduce the risk of heart problems because it reduces the pumping speed of the heart and also relaxes all the nerves in the body which in return clears our mind. That is why we are always asked to remain calm when in despair because it clouds our rationale thinking. It also helps in keeping problems at bay. There is a famous Telugu saying “Tana kopame tanaku shatruvu tana shantame tanaku raksha” it means a person’s enemy is his own anger and his shield is his calmness. This is supported by the scientific finding that when we get angry the adrenalin rush increases to our brain and such rush damages few tissues in our brain which may cause us to arguments etc.

So in order to achieve something in life or to know about yourself or to grow in your prospects I suggest you and many personality development masters suggest you to spend time with yourself every day in silence so that you can know what you are capable of and the decisions which you take when you are in peace are the most rationale decisions and such decisions will lead you because such is the power of SILENCE you get all your answers for all the troubles in this powerful weapon called SILENCE.

“Speech is SILVER whereas Silence is GOLD”

What is SUCCESS?

This is a question which I asked myself for many times and asked many people of what is success because many a times people who are very close to me asked me, requested me, ordered me to succeed. I never really understood what they actually meant and what success really is.

Is success an achievement or a milestone in your life which you have conquered? Is achieving your dream and getting what you wanted called success? Conquering the world earning money and becoming the richest person is called success? Is studying in reputed schools, colleges and institutions and topping them called success? Holding many degrees is called Success?

I realized that all these don’t matter in the end because nobody bothers how much you earned, how many degrees you have and how many records you broke all these things are temporary and which will be forgotten by people by passage of time and until some other person takes your place.

I realized that success is the ability to make the people you care for smile and happy. Success is not material achievement what is the use of success if you cannot share it with the people you love? What is the use of all those achievements when you don’t have anyone back there at home waiting your arrival to share your success and failures? What is the use of your big achievements and dreams if you don’t have anyone to share a meal with you?

In the end all that matters is when you are on the death bed you don’t remember all these achievements you only regret that hope you spent more time with the people whom you love a lot.

The real success in any person’s life is “when you die, you are still alive in the people’s heart because of all the good things you have done to them and having the person at your side when you need them the most and being at their side when they need you the most”

If you have not made someone’s day special by making them smile then I guess you have wasted one wonderful day by failing.

“If you have not made someone smile today then you failed today”  

I just realized that life is all about irony! What we want we don’t get and what we don’t want we get even though we resist and try to escape! Surprisingly not only this you can see irony in every aspect of your life!

Let’s suppose for example you are on your way to your work place or college. You started late and hope you won’t meet traffic because you want to reach early or on time but you get stuck in an unusual heavy traffic.

You are waiting for your bus to come and it is getting very late. You see one bus approaching and you hope it is yours but alas! It is a bus which you always wait and never comes but today though you are not boarding that one it comes on time.

You want some work to be done very quickly but apparently it is the work which will get delayed than the usual because you want it to be done fast!

You are in a hurry and think to have a quick bite. You go to a less crowded hotel hoping he would serve you fast but the reverse happens!

The real thing why it all happens is the god out there is wicked. He is bored of creating things and making order in the life so he thought while making human being “Let’s have some fun!!!!”

The irony is not only just made by him but also by most of our fellow humans too. Your friend comes to you and tells “Buddy you are my brother! Anytime you need just call me and I will be there!” But incidentally when you call him for help he will be busy!

Same is the case with our government offices in India! They say please approach us whenever you have a problem, we are here to serve and help you. But when you go to a government office you become the server and they become the Master and you won’t get what you want until you make a good errand over the whole office searching for what you want and whom to meet before you actually get your work to start.

They say the laws are there to protect you but when you are harmed and go for help the same laws appear to be of no use and instead your remedy is in fact delayed a bit longer just because of those laws which are meant to protect you.

I tried to test the test of Irony today and I was amazed that though this word and situation was coined long ago in history it is still the bare truth of the present world.

I still remember a person saying “What about the Human Rights Violations happening in Human Rights Commission?!” “We don’t have proper clean environment and air in the office of Human Rights Commission then how can you expect it somewhere else?”

This is what I felt when I was hit in the face that how many good laws you make it is still the same people who are going to use it so there is change but not much the only brighter side you can see is things are much better than what they used to be.

May 10^th, 2015, 12:30 AM

It happened to me when I was returning from celebrating my sister’s birthday in her hostel at madhapur, Hyderabad.

I wanted to make my sister’s birthday special this year because she always made me feel I was something special, so I planned to make a surprise birthday celebrations in her hostel. But that surprise gave me an experience of life time. I met a REAL MAN whom I never imagined can exist in the real world.

I was heading back from my sister’s hostel on my bike at mid night after the birthday celebrations. We were four in number, my elder sister and my brother-in-law on one bike, I and my uncle’s son on one bike. I was talking to my sister and was making fun of her. Suddenly I felt I was being followed. I slowed down to check if I really was being followed then suddenly a person came from behind on a bike and slowed down just to go along with my pace beside me. I was feeling awkward and intimidated. The guy started to stare me in the eye. I felt it was creepy and asked him “what’s the matter?” He just gave me a serious look and said, “wo ladki ko kaiku chedra hein?”, “why are you pestering that girl?” I was taken aback and shocked. I had no words to speak. I never imagined that someone would ask me such a thing. I was overcome with rage and controlling my anger I told the guy that “the girl” he was referring to was my sister and I was not pestering her was just talking to her and asked him how he can even think of such a thing. I was confused and angry at first then as soon as the person apologized and said that he felt that something was wrong and “we tend to see many cases these days so I thought something was wrong so please don’t mind”.

After he left I felt good that at least there are few people out there who really care and do what they can in their capacity to protect the needy. Hats off to the person who stood up that day in the middle of the night if not for me it might really happen somewhere by some other person. Hope wherever that person is he always is happy.

“You are not so great”

I want to dedicate this small piece of writing to my friend who asked me to write about it in the first instance. Hope you like it because though it is her story it is in my version.

We often come across the situations where most of the time parents, friends, relatives or some or the other person says, “Why can’t you be like rahul, why can’t you learn from him?” or from friends “I got more marks than you; your marks are not so great.” Or from parents, “see our neighbor’s kid how nice he is, much disciplined, good at studies, why don’t you learn from him and be like him?”

Most of the time you find people asking you or telling you to be like someone but nobody tells you to be yourself. We are always in a race to compete not with “the you” yesterday and “the you” tomorrow but with the “people” like who “you” want to be. Progress here is always compared with someone else’s performance but not with your previous performance. This is a vicious circle of game where there is no end. You end up dejected no matter how much you progress because people always think that the other is greater than you. Most of the time people always tend to show their superiority over the other or others because nobody wants to be back or down, everybody wants to be superior. In this course of action most of the persons who try to compete get hurt and I want to send a message to all those who got hurt despite their efforts to win. Don’t worry if people don’t admire your greatness because it is not theirs. It is yours.

Seeing this great race of progress reminds me of a story I heard in my childhood. It is about what will happen if body parts have brains and mouths?

The brain brags and boasts that it is the greatest and superior of them all because the every other organ works at its command.

The hands say “no you are not so great I am, because without me how can the command be executed?” Eyes say that “I am superior because without me the brain cannot see”.

Legs say “I am superior because I carry you all and your weight without me you people are nothing.” Stomach says “without me you don’t get energy to work so I am superior.”

Mouth says “if I don’t chew and it the food you won’t get the food.”

Hands reply “if I don’t carry it to the mouth mouth cannot eat it so I am superior of all.”

There then comes a fight between all of them. Nobody listens to anyone and disobey the other to prove their point. Legs refuse to carry the weight of the body as a result the body is on bed. Hands refuse to do anything as a result mouth and stomach stop working. Stomach to prove it superiority stops digesting the food. Eyes stop opening so that brain will accept that it is superior. Finally the body of the boy falls sick and all the parts suffer from their abstinence.

I feel this story was written by the author to prove the point that every limb of the body is important to function properly and everyone is superior in their own respect. The point is stop trying to be superior and being someone whom you are not. Just be the one you are then automatically you will be the superior in a unique way because you are an individual, a unique one and nobody can replace you.

We often listen to people saying be optimistic, think positive but generally most people fail. They fail because they don’t realize how important they are. They feel bad that they are criticized and despite their good efforts they have not got the appreciation. They don’t get it because people are so self obsessed with themselves that they forget to appreciate others. One such situation occurred even with the now US president Barack Obama, where his wife proved him how important she can be to him.

One night, Obama and his wife Michelle went to a restaurant to have dinner. There the owner of the restaurant came to them and asked permission to talk for 5 minutes. Obama looked at his wife and replied, “Ok!” but was shocked when the owner replied “sorry sir but I want to talk to your wife.” Michelle after taking some time accepted to talk. She came back after 5 minutes and told Obama that he was her school friend and told her that he loved her but was not able to express his feelings then and he is very glad to see her here today.

To that Obama replied, “Wow! I am glad that he didn’t propose to you then because if he did you would’ve been the wife of the owner of this restaurant.”

Guess what reply Michelle might have given to her husband when he said that?

She told “No. I would be the wife of president of America”

Obama chocked on his food for a minute when he heard this but then had a hearty laugh at his wife’s humor and apologized to her.

Don’t feel bad if people don’t regard you with respect or tell you that you and your achievements are not great and noteworthy. Because every person views the same thing differently. What a person thinks it is important may not be the same with the other person.