My Journey in search of Love

Letters of “Love” from “Love”

“Letter: Forever yours”

Son,

Your mom was the love of my life. I wish she were here today to hold your hand through your heartbreak. I’m not saying your pain isn’t real — heartbreak always is. But to me, other than you, this letter is the most cherished gift she ever gave me. I hope reading this gives you some solace.

Hi Tanay,

How are you? It’s been so long since we last exchanged letters. I miss those days we ran out of letters to talk about what was going on with us.

Just today, a family came to our house to see me for an alliance. The boy was handsome, but he barely spoke. Honestly, I was irritated. I didn’t even want to meet him. But what else could I do? I’m not yet ready to tell my parents about you — that I love you — nor are they ready to believe that a love marriage can be as strong as an arranged one.

They’ve spent their lives doing what they thought was best for me. And I owe them everything. In fact, isn’t it because of them that we met at all? They decided on my college, believing it would be best for their daughter — and there you were. But now, trying to convince them that love can be chosen, that it can be just as sacred as what they want for me, is becoming harder every day.

I think the real reason parents hesitate about love marriages is this: you take away their chance to pick “their” version of the perfect partner for their child. All our lives, they’ve been making decisions for us, and then one day, we say we’ll make our own — the biggest one yet. I don’t even fault them for it. They’ve seen the world before us. They only want to protect us.

I’m sorry for the way we parted last time. I’m sorry for not telling you about the proposals. It wasn’t to hurt you; I just wasn’t ready for that discussion. You would’ve asked, “So, are you having second thoughts about marrying me?” And I would’ve wanted to scream, “No! I’m not!”

Tanay, I love you. But I also respect my parents deeply. They are my world. But just because I want a future with you, I can’t abandon my past or my family. I want you and them, both. I’m trying to hold the best of both worlds together.

I don’t know how I’ll do it. But I do know this: if marriage is written for me, the only person I will marry is you. I don’t want to lose you. I don’t want to lose my parents. I dream of a life where you and I are together, and our families are happy with us.

All through our relationship, you’ve been my rock. And I know it’s unfair, but I need you to be my rock again now. Please stand by me. Write back soon. I can’t wait for the day we’re married and building our own big, happy family.

Yours only,
Anaya

This was the letter your mom wrote to me when we’d just finished college. We were unemployed and uncertain, and I didn’t dare ask her parents for her hand. She was far out of my league — the daughter of a wealthy, respected family — while I was just a middle-class boy with nothing but dreams. She had every reason to leave me for someone else.

Instead, she promised me that if she were ever to marry, it would be me. And she kept that promise. She became my life’s greatest blessing.

I don’t know the reason for your breakup. But let me tell you this: the most difficult decision to stick by is a marriage or a relationship. And throughout your life, holding on to that decision is never easy. Sometimes you’ll be at fault. Sometimes your partner will be. But it’s not about pointing fingers or finding faults. It’s about choosing the relationship every single time, especially when it feels hardest to do so.

When you become that person — and when you find that person who will do the same — you’ll fight, argue, cry, even feel like leaving. And yet, you won’t. Because you both chose this marriage, this relationship, and you’ll keep choosing it again and again.

When that happens, son, that is your best love. That is your best love……….

Why true Peace needs strength: A Lesson from the Guru

There was a gurukulam with a few disciples in the southern parts of India. One day, a disciple approached his Guruji and asked:

Disciple: “Guruji, you teach us many things. But two of your teachings intrigue and confuse me. You ask us to be the strongest people we can be, and yet, you also ask us to follow non-violence. If I cannot use my strength, then why did you make us strong in the first place, only to tell us not to use it?”

Guruji: “Do you see the great mountain behind our gurukulam?”

Disciple: “Yes, Guruji, I do.”

Guruji: “Do you think I could climb to its peak in half a day?”

Disciple: “You are strong, Guruji, but I think it is impossible even for you. Even I, in my prime, would take more than half a day to climb it.”

Guruji: “Good. Now, what if I asked you to climb it in half a day or less? What would you say?”

Disciple: “I would tell you, Guruji, that it is not possible for me.”

Guruji: “And if I forced or pressured you to do it?”

Disciple: “Then I would ask—were you able to do it when you were my age? Or I would say, Guruji, please show me how to do it first. If you can, then I will try.”

Guruji smiled.

Guruji: “Exactly. That is why I trained you in warfare. Not because you must always use it, but so that you and others understand that violence is not the solution to all problems. When a weak man preaches non-violence, people dismiss it, saying he speaks so only because he cannot fight. But when a strong man, fully capable of fighting, chooses non-violence—people listen. They know it comes from wisdom, not weakness. Remember this: it is always better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a battlefield. When you have strength yet choose peace, people will respect you, because you are showing them a higher path—that strength must be used only when necessary.”

The disciple bowed.

Disciple: “Thank you, Guruji, for enlightening me. But just as we disciples listened to you and became who we are today, won’t others also do the same?”

Guruji: “Let me tell you the story of Raja Hemanand Pratap Varma…”

The Tale of Raja Hemanand Pratap Varma

Raja Hemanand Pratap Varma was a just and kind king. His people loved him deeply, for he was wise and compassionate. Under his rule, there was peace and prosperity—no crimes, no wars, only flourishing trade and happiness.

Whenever rival kings threatened war, Hemanand would ask them: “What is it that you truly need? Why waste lives and resources? Let us resolve this peacefully.” He always extended the olive branch, providing what they sought to avoid bloodshed.

This attitude stemmed from his past. As a child, Hemanand was weak and often bullied. His father, a warrior king, had died in battle. From that time, Hemanand vowed never to follow the path of violence. He shunned warfare and physical training, choosing instead to rule through peace.

His ideals made his kingdom prosper. Neighboring kings saw him as harmless, and merchants from far and wide flocked to his peaceful, wealthy land. But this very prosperity attracted the attention of Virata Samrat, a cruel and greedy ruler.

Virata challenged Hemanand: “Let us wage war. The victor shall rule both kingdoms.”

But Hemanand stayed true to his ideals. He refused bloodshed and instead sent 1,000 carts of gold, saying: “Let us avoid war, for it will only destroy our people. Accept this token, and let us live as friends.”

Virata was astonished—yet insulted. He thought: “If Hemanand can spare 1,000 carts of gold for peace, how much more treasure must he hold? And how dare he imply that I can be bought?”

His pride wounded, Virata decided to exploit Hemanand’s weakness—his kindness. He accepted the offer, pretended friendship, and slowly gained Hemanand’s trust. Soon, he sat in the king’s court, influencing matters of state.

Once he had learned enough, Virata struck. He betrayed Hemanand, killed him, and exiled his wife and son. Virata seized the throne and ruled the once-prosperous kingdom with cruelty.

Guruji’s voice grew solemn.

Guruji: “Do you see, my child? Raja Hemanand had peace in his heart, but no strength to protect it. Peace without strength is fragile, like a lamp in the wind. Strength without peace is destructive, like fire in the forest. True wisdom is in having both—strength to defend, and the will to choose peace.”

The disciple bowed deeply, his doubts dissolved.

Disciple: “Now I understand, Guruji. Peace is indeed the greatest weapon—but only when it is guarded by strength.”

Edit courtesy: ChatGpt

What is valuable?

Do we only value those that came into our lives with lot of efforts?

Yes and No.

We are conditioned to value only those things and people in our lives when we get them after a lot of efforts or if it is what we have always dreamt about and once we achieved it that is when we think it is precious and important.

We value only those things which “we” think/perceive as valuable. If we get something easily and is available then automatically our mind is conditioned to believe that this is not valuable. We are conditioned to believe in scarcity creates demand and importance. So, if it is easily available, it is not valuable but if it is scarce then it is highly valuable. This is how we function, for example, gold and diamonds are precious but not trees, environment and planet because they are in abundance. 

I fully understand now why our elders asked us to treat everything and everyone as important.

Because as we grow up, we only treat such things as important if we have worked hard for them. And if we didn’t,  we don’t perceive it as important.

Our elders and ancestors knew this way long back and they were way ahead of us so they decided that by inculcating a habit that everything is important, we will treat everything as important and respect everything for example earth, water, environment, animals etc, we respect everything and protect everything irrespective of the fact that you worked hard for it or not.

Whether or not such things are in abundance or not. 

So the bottom line is, if something is good for you, just believe that you have to protect it whether or not it came to you easily because not everyone will be as blessed as you when you received such things.

Efforts don’t define value. You do. Don’t lose something good in life just because it was effortless.